Any docs out there, please can you help on this question?
A very good friend of mine is 34 weeks pregnant with her second baby and wants to have an elective c-section.
Her first baby was born at 39 weeks by a planned c-section as he was breech and weighed a hefty 9lbs 10oz (she, on the other hand, is a petite 7st).
She is absolutely terrified at the prospect of a natural delivery given the size of her first (and you should see her now, she's HUGE!) in spite of being told the usual stuff about everyone's pelvis being roughly the same size. She is totally stressed, not sleeping, not eating properly etc because the Obstetrician has told her that he will decide what's best for her and at the moment he considers that to be an attempt at a vaginal delivery.
In this day and age is this really the case? That we are given no choice or contribution to the decision making process? I find it quite hard to believe, so advice gratefully received. I am quite aware that there is a National drive to reduce the number of caesarean deliveries, but in this case I can't believe that they won't even discuss it with her.
I am also interested from a personal perspective as I had an emergency caesarean with my son and should I ever pluck up the courage to have another one would love to know where I stand.
thanks in advance