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Nam, i'm the same in that if it was expected of me to act like a good little house wife, I most certainly wouldn't!! In a relationship I would just do what needs to be done as I have the time to do it, and if I didn't, i'd hope the guy would pick up the slack, and vice versa when he doesn't have time. Everyone can cook and clean (both are easily learned!), so everyone should do their bit I think. Makes life easier....
*sighs*
In my last ltr I was very much the low earner, I was still finishing university as a mature (not that mature i'll have you know!) student and he was in a well paid professional job. Therefore to be able to do the social things he wanted to he had no choice but to pay for the majority of stuff, I always put something in the kitty but it was by no means even. We didn't live together and he was not the greatest in the kitchen so on a Sunday afternoon I would often make him a weeks supply of meals and freeze them individually as well as Sunday lunch and sort out his washing so things were kinda equal in a way.
Men can multi-task as well guys and girls. Look I'm typing eating tea and watching firefly on DVD all at the same time.
Oh also one of the feminists I know also thinks I must be gay because I can cook better than her.
What a bigot!
Some women take the feminism thing tooooo far, and end up looking like moaning bee-atches without a good word to say about men. It is all a bit yawn-worthy. Men & women are different, but we can all do the same things, if we try, and there is no reason why we shouldn't be paid equally for doing the same work. Women should never think they can't be as good as a bloke, and should just do what they want in life. That's my idea of feminism. Any anyone that disagrees can kiss my big ass
Perosnally don't like being around people who make a big issue of their "independence" all the time, be they male or female.
When you get into a relationship you have to start compromising or surrendering some of your more cherished notions and behaviours or it will prob end one of three ways - you become whipped or you split up or you dominate the partnership none of which are satisfactory.
Me and Mrs B have worked out what works for us: i spend 50-60 hours a week dealing with fuckwits and sacrificing my integrity and self respect in order to support her and the boys.
In return she makes me a pie every now and then.
Pea I used to bake crumbles for a living ask Aitch or Becky and they can tell you I know what I'm doing on that front. You would have had a massive box of brownies for outlaw if I had a lift to be able to deliever them to you. Your welcome round for tea any time open invite. Tonight for tea it was lamb steaks, with a mixed veg roast of sweet pot's, pot's, parsips and carrots. drisseled in olive oil and honey. It's my faverate disk at the moment and experimenting with how to cook it perfect. I really can cook when I have the time.
Do feminisists still exist, at leat in the original 1980s fat-is-a-feminist-issue form?
My OH says the same as you Cake, but after a few heart to hearts we realised we think the same thing, and I'd call myself a feminist. It's about equal opportunities, but with that comes equal responsibilities. I married him as an equal, I don't expect a meal ticket.
As we're doing up a house and he's a builder, he does more traditional bloke roles (plastering, plumbing) whilst I've taken up the domestics, but it's about pulling together and doing what we're good at, not sexist bollocks about 'women's work'
Feminist doesn't mean 'hating men'. If that's how they feel then it's whatever the female equivalent of misogynist is, and that's a very differnt (and rather sad IMHO) thing.
There doesn't seem to be an equivalent word to misogynist Hash. Perhaps we should invent one.
I call myself an egalitarian and I agree with you Hash about shared responsibilities and doing what you're most suited to/skilled at. Although ... if there's something I really hate (like washing-up), I'm happy to give lessons and job-share that one!
The word is "misandry".
Not one I've ever heard in conversation i must say.
Hash when I mean femimists I mean the hard core types who wear dungeries and treat all man as a different species. Because of comunity work I do I have to deal with a few off them and they make life hard for me sometimes. I don't hate you kid you give me nice drinks for a start.
Mmmmmmmmm crumble
I hate washing up too. I wonder if anyone likes it? Like ironing. Who likes ironing? I just see it as time in my life I don't get back *sighs*
I'm with Parkie though, i'd rather be satisfied first before the domestics kick in
We are all different but yet equal. I don't think that my inability to do diy has anything to do with me being a girl, it's to do with me not having then interest or the patience for it. Ditto gardening ... it's the devils work.
Sorry but I'm a dinner first person. Wouldn't want the satisfaction to be interrupted by my rumbly tummy.
I quite like ironing
I'd happily do that for two provided I never had to do any gardening ever again.