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  • BB ✭✭✭
    Has SP finally ticked off that New Year resolution of joining FB? image
  • BB ✭✭✭
    i haven't phoned sky yet. Need to find out if it just us or others in the block first ... don't like to dosturb people Sunday evening, so will find out tomorrow.
  • Can anyone smell burning?

    Tee hee, its just TP's brain frying overtime working out how i've seen the pic image

  • Best put the exorcist on standby ....

  • No need hunni, i just thought i'd say it was nice, cos you know well by now that i'm all fart, no sh*t and haven't joined FB (so haven't seen it)...still, it amused me for five minutes image
  • Not for the first time recently, I'm confused.
  • You're tired and hung over, thats why you're confused. It has nothing to do with the fact that i'm talking crap.
  • <pats cushion>  Join me in the dazed and confused corner then image

  • Shall I make tea for everyone in the corner? Or would hot chocolate be better, it is gone 10pm, after all image
  • I thought i made alot of sense image I was attempting to demonstrate how much of a procrastinator i am, cos i had many things to do in January, including joining FB and i did none of them!! See, i does make sense (in my head anyway image)

    Maybe its me who needs to go and lie down image

  • Put a slug of brandy in it Frodo and you're on image

    Actually, in the real world I think I'm going to have a Baileys.  Is that a bit risque on a Sunday night?

  • BB ✭✭✭
    Go for it TP, I like a baileys ...

    Early night for me, sweet dreams all
  • No you should have it, cos you missed out on your Baileys cheesecake last night, so you can make up for part of it anyway.

    I don't like Baileys, i find it quite sickening. Have you tried Sambucca and Baileys?

  • I forgot to mention that last night the restaurant forgot to charge for 2 bottles of wine and only charged £17.45 each for the 6 steaks which were £20.95 on the menu so bill was about £50 light.  We didn't say anything image

    I don't like sambucca.  Actually I'm not fond of most liqueurs.  Too strong tasting for me.  I have delicate tastebuds image

  • That was a nice end to the evening then....image

  • Always nice to get a bargain image

    Right bedtime for me. Night x

  • Morning guys!  Glad the weekend is over.  I really hate spending time with Hubby at the moment as I never get to see the real person that I married and it hurts to see this zombie instead.

    He's talking about booking time off work soon.  I don't know what to do about that.  Last time I was a state by the time he went back to work and I don't want to go through that again, but is it mean if I chose that week to go and visit some friends?

  • Morning....image

    Thats a difficult one SC....on one hand i think its really important for you to get away and enjoy time with other people, but on the other hand i'm thinking that if you plan to go away to 'escape' the situation, then you are really running away from it, and its going to be there when you get back, and every other time he takes time off.

    Is there a chance that you are feeling worse after the weekend cos you haven't been well yourself, or is this generally how you feel after every weekend?

    Hugs xx

  • Morning!

    Hmmm - tricky one SC, mainly for the reasons SP says, but also isn't hubby going to think it's a bit odd if you disappear when he's booked time off? Maybe you need to have an open talk about how you feel around him when he's like that?

  • I am beginning to hate weekends, and yes, it doesn't help when I am ill myself and unable to get out of the house at all.  Usually I try to meet some friends for exercise, so at least I get a couple of hours to myself.

    Last time he had time off I made it clear that it might be a holiday for him, but it isn't one for me.  He knows that I plan weekends away to get a break from him and he understands my need to do that.  Maybe I can get away at the beginning of his time off as that is when he is worst, and then we might actually be able to enjoy each other's company towards the end of the week.

  • image SC that sounds really crap.  I wouldn't want to have to plan time away from my OH just so that I can bear to be around him at other time.  Do you feel that your relationship has reached the point where it's not just about his illness and his CBT etc, but maybe both of you need to talk to someone like a Relate counsellor or similar. 
  • A nice but very busy weekend has been had here.  image

    Car is nice and sparkly after it had its free valet at Skoda on Saturday.  My Ebay selling spress has been progressing nicely, with £200 been made from selling odds and sods of our stuff.  Also another £50 from out Amazon selling account for books & CDs...  *kerrchiiinggg*

    No 2 dog plans are slowly becoming clearer.  We met with him and Kara but unfortunately the two didn't really take to each other.  Kara, who normally loves any dog she meets, was instantly jealous of him and got quite snarly, which he didn't take kindly to.  Also, when he has a go at another dog, you really need both hands for him.  Basically he would need a lot of behavioural input on a 1-2-1 basis before you could even consider homing him with anotehr pooch.  He is a very strong dog and I simple don't have the confidence to manage both of them on my own (which I would have to in the mornings).  At then end of the walk they tolerated each other, but it was quite stressful.  I think Malibu is not ideally suited to being a 2nd dog and would probably do better in an environment where he was the only pet.  I will carry on walking and socialising him, so he generally becomes more manageable, and hopefully someone else will be able to give him his forever home.

    In the meantime we're keeping a little eye on this little lady from the Oldies Club.  http://www.oldies.org.uk/?p=58921  image

    Yesterday G was in Brizzol pottering, clearing his house, and I was home meeting my mate and her dog, going for a 2 hour walk, doing more fleabaying and baking more Bara Brith... which has come out nice again. 

    Just got roped into something at work that I'm terribly unexcited about and I shouldn't really be doing at my new proposed pay scale... image  *mutters*

    How's everyone?  image

  • BB ✭✭✭
    Sounds sensible re second dog Nam, he's lucky to have you helping get him ready for the right home

    It's all been said better than I could Caz, but sending hugs ((()))

    I went to body pump this morning. K gave me a lift to the gym and I walked home. I reduced all my weights so wasn't pushing hard and it was ok, though I still feel weedy. Will take exercise easy this week and hopefully be back to normal next week.

  • Caz - like B said.  I think Nam may have a point and I appreciate that it's not something you may want to talk about on an open forum.  If it is the case though, from my own experience I can only say that don't leave it too late to talk or get outside help.  We're all here to listen though (((((Caz)))))

    That is a sad Nam but the best decision really.  It's a shame that no all dog owners consider their pets welfare aas much as you.

    *Waves to everyone*

  • Cheers BDB.  It has to be right for everyone, for him, for Kara, for us...  I had never seen him in the pound before (the staff always bring him out) and when I saw his behaviour in kennels, I knew instantly why no one has picked him yet.  He barks incessantly and looks quite nasty when he does.  He's lovely once out of that environment, but of course people don't know that. image  I'm involved with a group of volunteers, fund raising to modernise the kennels and assist in the general welfare of the dogs in the home.  We're doing an "environmental enrichment" programme and managed to fund a kong for every kennel (a rubber toy thing you can put food in, it's mental stimulation).  We've also developed a group of volunteer walkers to get the dogs out more.  I'm also taking nice photos of the dogs, which show them in a better light than the initial snaps taken by staff in the kennel.  I might propose that we have a laminated notice for each dog on their kennel door, with a good photo and a nice write up about what they're good with and what they're not so good with, and those who behave very differently outside, for it to say so, so people give a dog the bebefit of the doubt even when they're not the type to sit nicely by the door with the clever ears and the polite tail was and dopey eyes.  Mali just doesn't know how to sell himself (yet!).  image  The pound is a very sad environment.  The kennels are small, dark, grim and I just wanted to cry when I walked out of there.  The Council's core funding can just about keep stuff ticking over at status quo, but there is no room for re-development.  We need £50k to modernise the pound, and we've got £4k so far and we'll keep chipping away. 

    http://www.friendsofcardiffdogshome.org.uk/ / http://www.friendsofcardiffdogs.proboards.com/index.cgi
    if anyone wants to donate anything at all, there is a Paypal link on the left of the 2nd link.  image 

    Oh on the weekend we had a Murder Mystery dinner at my friend's house where I was Lady Eyre and G was the Reverend Brethren...  http://www.maddisongames.co.uk/shop/detail.php?id=263&lpp= very funny!!!

  • +1 to what the others have said SC.  If it's got to the stage where you're planning time away from each other rather than time together then it's the time for some serious conversations and outside help imho.  Everyone needs outside help to sort things out be that emotional, financial or other problems at some time.

    Good decision on the 2nd dog Nam, too many people make these decisions on emotions not practicalities and that's how a lot of the poor hounds end up back where they started and even more confused.  Great work in the marketing of the dogs and the socialisation & kennel improvements. image

    Monday Monday here.  I have lost half a kg so all my vegetable eating last week was not totally in vain ...however at least a kg would have been a nicer reward for my abstinence.

    Somebody here is bugging the life out of me panicing about something I can do in my sleep, my lack of enthusiasm and panic is not because I am underestimating the task, it's because he is underestimating my abilities ... again!

    B, you take it easy.  You've been poorly and you don't get completely better in a day or two, it takes a while.  Stern stare if you overdo it.

    <waves back to BDB>

  • Sounds like your colleague needs the TP special teatment.

    Washing machine has arrived.  Poor guys were huffing and puffing bringing the old one down and then new one up.  2 flights of stairs - poor fellas.  Need to wire and plumb in now and then have a washing fest.

  • Sadly he has built up some kind of immunity image

    Don't you be climbing in there yourself in at attempt to have a go at the 30 degree fast wash BDB, remember the lovely new shower is for washing you. 

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