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I'll avoid turning this into a husband insulting thread & will be grateful for any advice on how to deal with this.
Thought I'd post here as it has affected my running...can't remember the last time I felt happy when heading out for a run, which is affecting my motivation. I used to be a very happy person, but cant remember the last time I smiled or laughed at home. (being with friends/colleagues is different)
Has anyone had any experience of coping with a very stubborn, grumpy, bad tempered spouse, to the point where it affects your happiness? I think I can cope with the negativity, the worse part is the clever ploys to turn the situation around so I'm made out to be the one who has a problem. I've also noticed in the past year I can be spoken to in a very condescending way - whatever I do is wrong. Whatever I say is wrong. I cant do this, I can't do that (see the link to affecting my running)...is this a form of emotional bullying?
I used to react with an equally firey temper, but now I say nothing, however inside I feel very, very small & insignificant.
I've always been quite shy and unconfident & think if I could deal with this more assertively I might feel happier about the situation & it wont play on my mind.
The reason I havent left yet is twofold: I can see the good in him & think that stress may play a part in his temper (work security issues - don't we all have that!), & 2) because (for the moment anyway) the positives in our relationship marginally outweigh the negatives). I'm not perfect either, but am trying to work on my shortfalls. I've seen a councillors & have re-assessed my training goals so i'm not putting too much pressure on myself & run for enjoyment.
I could go on, but have written enough already.
Any advice will be gratefully received, thank you for reading this post.