Just need to have a quick rant...sorry!
Just been out for my usual lunchtime 3 miler with a colleague. We picked up the pace a little today and it was going really well until we hit the main road on the way back to work. There we passed an overweight man who said "yeah, you need to work off that fat" to us both!!!
I am sooooo cross!! And quite upset, as I know I'm not Kate Moss but at a size 12-14 I don't think I'm fat. He, on the other hand, had quite a big beer belly.
What gave him the right to make such an offensive comment?!!
Running is hard enough work as it is. Today was my first run since a disastrous (and upsetting) Bath half on sunday and I'm really p***** off.
Rant over.
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Chilll !
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Cougie's probably right - if anything it meant you looked slim and athletic to him.
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If you see him again, smile and invite him to join you - in a nice way.
As for Bath, everbody has bad runs and sometimes it's hard to find an explanation. The best thing to do is target another race soon and put all your training to good use.
When I ran a marathon I missed my goal time by almost an hour, was really gutted at the time but now I feel proud that I managed to get round at all (and I really wish that I had tried for another one a few months later).
Surely it would have been really offensive if it had come from a size 8 woman? (or a thin man)?
As I passed them I heard one say under her breath to the other: "flash git". I turned round and cheerily said "sorry"!! They just burst out laughing!
C'mon you must get this all the time.
This is when a person can't face an unpalatable truth about themselves. Then they go around accusing other people, unjustly, of the same failing, seeing it in everyone around them.
This was a classic case, if you ask me. More to be pitied than condemned.
Am I starting to sound a bit girlie?
I do get comments quite a bit...the same as the rest of you but they . It just p***** me off today!
The woman I was running with said afterwards that she wished she'd said "at least we can do something about the fat, you can't do anything about your face"....
Can never think of suitable retorts at the time though!
If it was aimed at a bloke, no doubt it'd be laughed off, and probably rightly seen as a joke.
But aimed at a lady ... well, women's paranoia about their body shape ("Body dysphoria"?) is well-documented, so what was in fact intended as a compliment is perceived as a bone-headed insult.
I'll probabply get hand-bagged for that!
Should read: 'I do get comments quite a bit..the same as the rest of you but they tend to be more amusing than this one'
Dr Nic is right about feeling a bit vulnerable. I run in Mile End and up to Victoria Park, where Margaret Muller was murdered. I'm fortunate in that I'm usually able to run with someone (like today) but you still don't feel completely secure knowing that they still haven't caught the guy who did it.
He was just an a******* and I just wanted to let off steam about it. That's all.
If you run in this part of London, you'll recognise the guy who said it cos he's got no legs now.....(just joking)
He's obviously someone then looking to put others down to feel better about himself.
Try not to let it get to you (easier said than done!)
Sympathise with you ladies on this one, my wife gets stick quite a bit.
Blokes get it rarely but when I lived in Brixton till about a year ago, used to get comments from the hookers down Brixton Hill all the time. Doh, I'm running love........
I didn't think the comment was that offensive to be honest, but if it's any consolation you can always feel smug in the knowledge that in 5-10 years time you will be fit and he will probably have been carted of to the morgue by a large team of sherpas, that always brings a smile to my face (welcome to the dark world of the Gorilla!!)
'You'll have a f**kin heart attack you stupid ponce!'
... yeah , they wish.
It would howver, have been drastic to whip the uzi out of the back of your ron-hills and spray the van with bullets.