I'm sure I'm not the first person for whom running has created a certain amount of domestic disharmony. My partner announced the other night that he was fed up with doing all the cooking. I haven't at any time asked him to take on this responsibility: it just seems to be the case that while I'm out running he feels that because he isn't doing anything specific, he should get on with the dinner. He also implied that in recent months I seem to organise everything (including him) to fit in with my running.
What can I say? I guess I am a bit guilty of trying to arrange my week to accommodate my running rather than arranging my running around other things. This is only because when I used to fit running in with whatever else was going on, I invariably only ended up getting out once or twice a week. I suppose to go from that to five times a week seems a little excessive to him.
I have tried to encourage him to join me, but on the few occasions we have tried to train together we just end up disagreeing. He did a lot of athletics and running at school, and a lot of running training when he rowed competitively. Because of this, he thinks that pushing your body as hard as you can and going through the pain threshold is the only way to train. I have less experience than him, but have read widely on the subject, and have to conclude that the best way of training is to incorporate a number of 'key' sessions a week. Going for the burn every time will just result in injury, and a failure to show improvement after a while because of burn-out.
We sat down and discussed the problem the other night. He has given up on exercise for the moment so feels that he has to cook while I'm out training so that we don't waste the evening. My view is that running is 'my' time, and the time I'm out training and he's on his own should be 'his' time - therefore he shouldn't feel the need to fill this in with cooking or other domestic chores. I've also suggested that some meals (chilli, spaghetti bolognese, some pasta meals) I can make ahead. Most things we eat are relatively quick - roasted vegetables can go in the oven while I have my post-run shower, jacket potatoes take at least an hour in the oven so can cook while I run and shower. There are ways round the problem. I've agreed not to run on Saturdays as I do concede that the desire to get home from whatever we were doing in the day to fit in a run before going out for the evening was a bit unreasonable. Four runs a week is probably sufficient, especially now I'm starting to build mileage.
Sorry this is rather long, but has anyone else found problems with balancing running against other commitments/partner's needs? What solutions have you reached?