I thought of boinging my previous thread on this topic but decided against it.
By way of a short recap, Little Mint is almost 11 now and has been seeing various experts. The occupational therapist and physiotherapists have agreed that he has "differences" but he hasn't been diagnosed as yet. As some of you know, I'd place every penny I have on him being dyspraxic.
Those of you with knowledge of dyspraxia will know that the problems change and evolve as the child grows up. Little Mint has above average intelligence and apart from some 'strange' behaviour, most people wouldn't notice a difference - cos he's found ways of covering up his differences.
Little Mint has always been seeking ways of being "accepted" by his peers. This leads him to do some stupid stuff - give cheek to adults, show off and such like.
We live in a small village and there is little choice of friends for him.
Unfortunately he just gives off a really precocious attitude which makes him unpopular with adults. Children like him because he's 'funny'. He admits that he feels different and I'm trying to persuade him that different is good and he doesn't need to try so hard to fit in and that it's okay for him to be himself. He obviously doesn't think it is.
Some boys in the village are a bit too interested in setting stuff on fire. I know that something is going to happen and Little Mint is going to get the blame. How on earth do I persuade him to walk away from these jerks and not hang around.
We're just talking bits of paper in fields but I'm worried this is going to get out of hand and I don't quite know where to turn.
I'm on my own with him and people will just love to point the finger at single parent with 'out of control' son.
Would the fire brigade help? I spoke to the shool the last time this happened and they just said "oh, they get spoken to about fire in Year 6". Well hoo bloody ray! We're now in Year 6 but these kids might burn down a building before they get their talk and some of the kids involved are Year 8 now ... I think they've forgotten the talk.
Oh and apparently there was a discussion because Little Mint 'grassed' to me the last time any fire lighting happened and he has now been threatened that if he tells anyone they will 'rip his tits off and sell them on Ebay'. He's also overweight - overeating I believe is caused by emotional eating.
He's seeing Ed psych in March although I'm not sure how helpful this will be.
Any constructive advice gratefully received.