Just curious: has anyone else out there taken up running after divorce or separation?
I know there must be others. It all seems more positive than alternative ways to move on but I am not sure how non-runners feel about dating obsessive health freaks.
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I found that when I took up running prompted by my new girlfriend and now my wife it got rid of a lot pent up emotions I had stored from a previous disastrous encounter. Now my running has taken on a different form and gives us both a sort of focus.
I hope this helps and good luck. Go do it !
Also, what's wrong with dating runners???
There are some real nice people out there...
...don't rush into anything....
I agree with the Boblink... but most important of all I think is that the running will give you more self-confidence (something usually lacking after a split). You mention how non-runners feel about dating obsessive health freaks - well I think it's easier if they know that you from the beginning....
I on the other hand have just started this health freak phase (in the last six months) and I can say that it already causes friction between myself and my partner because I am a changed person (albeit for the better - fitter, healthier, happier, more outgoing, need I go on ?). Have I waffled enough? (sorry)
Good luck and HAPPY RUNNING !!
So, to summarise, it gives you a focus, it gets you out, it makes you feel more positive and you might, just might, one day end up with a physically perfect partner who doesn't smell of fags and chips.
LOL!!! Fit looking birds (Foxy, Badge etc...)WAS on my mind but I wasn't going to say so!!
Am I good at counselling or what?
DB - you are a saint!
It is an excellant way to fight of depression and to get rid of all those negative feelings that rear their ugly head from time to time.
You are a great consellor. I'll use you if I ever have the need!!
Badge,
You put yourself down. I'm sure that you are still a real babe!!!!
I think running is great and I should know as I have been dumped many times, ha, ha!
Hope you enjoy the running!!!
I got divorced 2 years ago, I started drinking far too much and eating too much to block it out, so, in Feb this year I thought "right thats it I must pull myself together" so I started walking and then onto running and have now lost 3 1/2 stone and have cut right back on the drink.
Running has sorted out my head and made me fit into the bargain.
Not sure about what a non running partner would say as I am still on my own and have no intention of looking for anyone, for the moment anyway as I am really enjoying the single life again and the freedom.
All the best to you Startin Again with your running and good luck with your quest to start again.
Cheers Gaz...............
Anyone had to get divorced because of running?
DB / RB - Agree totally!
Gaz - you look about 12 now!
See running takes years off you...........
and yes it does make you feel very good about yourself.................
I am not looking for anyone at the moment - I just worry about the future sometimes like one does when your world gets turned upside down. I was going to mention how good looking and young for their age all the female runners I have met seem to be but thought that might seem I was in it for the wrong reasons :-).
In the midst of such a thing myself at the moment. Running can make me feel better about myself at a time when not a lot else does ... of course sometimes it's just a pain in the @rse.
SR
Don't worry too much about the future at the moment. Think about all the things you can now do without having to check with anyone else. There is a big world out there just waiting to be explored. You never know what's around the corner and who you might meet.
Yes I think running is a brilliant way of unwinding/dealing with the stresses life can lob up from time to time.
It seems quite natural to re-assess your priorities and goals when several of the things you've taken as givens for some time disappear. There's nothing wrong with diverting your focus to a new subject, even if eventually you think you might want to re-focus again later.
Staying healthy & positive at the moment is the best thing you can do for you - let the rest sort itself out.
And yes dropping in behind a neat Foxy style posterior on a run is very good for the spirits :-)
Anyway for 18 months I was celibate and threw myself into running and had a pretty fantastic travelling round the country with mates doing races, challenges all kinds of healthy things.
Works wonders, I definitely believe that running helped me through it all!
I myself had a breakdown about 6 mths ago, its hard to get your head round it but the running thing def helps.
Try and be strong the DS is with you.