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This morning the teacher said she was well aware of last fridays incidents, and the the boys in question were then denied their lunchtime play;m and that all the teachers had now been made aware of the situation.
I do think that something like judo is worth trying (if the kid enjoys it) because it might be a solution. I don't really understand your matrix comment earlier - sure you wont become Bruce Lee but a lot of people just panic when threatened physically and if they can overcome that it may (only may) be a solution.
I think some kids (the introverted ones) just don't naturally come across as confident. Even if they are fairly sure of themselves, because they are introverted they just don't "put it out there" in the same way.
Frags - has the school involved the other kids' parents yet?
Actually Fruits I think you're right - just because #1 son cvan be introverted and quiet, doesn't mean he lacks confidence in himself, he just doesn't like physical fighting and won't fight back.
Confident in the academic stuff but did not like the idea of getting hurt.
Therefore wouldn't fight back.
However if I had been told it would stop as long as I fought back and might have taken a knock or two, then I think things would have turned out different.
in fact the opposite tends to be the case, since the bullies will tend to move on...
the last thing they want is to get hurt themselves
Well done to the school for handling it all quickly and without fuss, and a big thank-you to all you lot who supported me when I neede it.
xx
shurely it would be a yu-gi-oh hard stare rather than a paddington one these days though
My work mate described her school days to me, and I ended up looking at her in horror and saying 'so you were a bully?'. She had never seen her behaviour in that light before and was quite shocked that it had been construed as such.
Your son sounds a lovely little boy. If things are dealt with in a calm and sensible way, he will come out of this with a self-confidence that will stop others from picking on him. I agree with the orangutan- it can definately become a negative feedback loop resulting in a victim mentality that follows the child around wherever they may end up (and in to adult hood). Good luck with it.
Thanks for the update, I am really pleased that things look like they are getting sorted out.
Well doen Fraggs hope things stay okay
Some options are
1 tell your child that he must report it to his teacher
2 Go and see the teacher but not with all guns blazing and tell them of the problem.
3 Go and see the parents of the bullies and explain the situation.
4 teach your child to fight back.
The last option may not sit easily with some people but bearing in mind bullies are cowards it is a valid option.
Glad things are sorted sounds.
Sounds like my daughter introvert but confident but would not fight back.
Confidence boosting I'm not sure of if anyone else can provide any tips they would be greatly appreciated, I think martial arts does provide confidence but is not suited to all kids.