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What a bizarre thread?????????
So... to sum up... you think men should pay for everything and do all the work because you can get up the duff and are the one to pop 'em out???
If you disclose those wonderful ideas on a first date, there might be your answer to why you're still single?
Keeping a house clean and tidy and everthing running smoothly in a home is very hard work.
Housewives work hard too.
House and garden need attention.
And everything else. Bank accounts, family holidays.
Someone ask here, what is the point of a woman staying home all day?
Well, the reason of a woman looking after the houser is so that when the husband comes in from work he can realx and not having to start cleaning and working in the house.
While he is working outside, she is working inside.
One of the main arguments I had with my ex, was when we both came home from work, he went to sit in the sofa and obviously i was like "Excuse me! what you think you're doing? We have to work at home now, the floor needs mopping, the b athroom cleaning and the clothes ironing..............so lets both do it"
he was not happy to share housework, so why would i be happy to go out to work?
I gave him an ultimatum: either we both work outside and then inside every day. Or he works outside or i work inside.
Fatima, I think you may struggle a little to find many men (or women) who share your views.
I thought you said he refused to work and just sat around and sponged off you?
As for the rest of the tosh in that post.......anyone got a spare can opener?
Scary
Beware the tick list woman.......
I quite agree with Fatima that if both people work then both should share the household chores - that''s down to the individuals, and if her husband wouldn't do his bit then he was a lazy git .
However, I do dispute that housework, gardening, arranging holidays and paying bills is hard work! I do all those things and work full time and still have plenty of free time.
I think Fatima is trying to make staying at home sound like a real job
This is tough... is Fatima a troll or has she slipped through a wormhole from 1950s small town America?
Why can you only have a clean house and paid bills if one of you is at home sponging off the other?? Our house is clean, the bills are all paid and 95% of the evening meals are made from scratch...we both work full time and I train most nights... it's not partcularly hard to do.
The problem as far as I can see it is that you're trying to live in 1950 when in reality times have changed... a womans place isn't chained to the kitchen sink anymore... and the majority of men don't expect it to be that way.
I'm old fashioned in that I like Mr CS to do some of the more typically male chores... emptying the bins, checking the oil etc. but then again I'm perfectly capable of doing them myself. We take a joint role in the household chores although the cooking is mainly left to me but that is only because it's not Mr CS strong point.
We both work - well, we do when Pink isn't on maternity leave.
We have a clean house - because we have a cleaner.
All the bills are paid - by direct debit so we don't have to do anything.
Most evening meals are made from scratch - okay, one thing we do actually have to do, although Tesco delivers the groceries once a week
Oh and welcome back Rickster.
LOL! (I'm pregnant at the moment - hormones must be affecting my sense of humour......)
Fatima is obviously on a running forum as too many of her prospective mates have found the need to run away, run away as fast as they can...
She's after tips to catch them. I'm hoping they've all been in serious training and can escape.
My point was that we don't always get what we want (or think that we want) in life, so we need to be flexible. Circumstances change and I would be very reluctant to chose a partner that thought that their role in life was fixed. If I needed Hubby to give up work for me then he would, and therefore I am willing (on a temporary basis, for as long as it is needed) to give up what I enjoy for him.
As for kids, what about adoption? That way neither of you has to put up with the inconvenience of birth and you are also helping out a child that is in need of love.