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Relationships and marriage..........Knight in shinning armour?
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My tuppence worth.
I'd have to say well done to Fatima for being in the enviable position of having bought her own home.
My guess would be that she has a different cultural background to others on here and so may have a different outlook on marriage and relationships. Or that might be bollocks.
Yes, that is true. Miffi, as some has suggested I am from a different cultural background and i do have a different outlook in marriage and relationships.
I come from a culture that is a bit different and I do believe in gender roles.
That is the honest truth. I was simply saying what i think.
All this has been an interesting "sociological study" ..........lol............
to see different views of people and what people think.
But after all, everyone is entitled to his/her opinion.
Is always good to see other's points of view and have an open mind. I do try to have an open mind, and personaly i tend to do what works best for me.
In this case, i do not believe in the "equality" i had in my previous marriage, so that did not work for me.
From my point of view, i think that some "modern men" are missing the point in something: TRUST.
That a woman is prepared to be a housewife and put herself in a vulnerable position for the man she loves............it means she trusts him. She trust him to look after her, and to do things right.
Does not that mean something? does not men like to be trusted?
Unfortunately, in the modern days, is like noone trusts anybody else.
Even me. I know that i have traditional ideas, but i would be wary of leaving my job, as i would not be sure if i could trusts the man.
I was married before i clearly i could not trusts my (ex)husband.
Listen closely- YOU ARE NOT OPEN MINDED!!!!
I did wonder if it's simply a cultural difference of views.
Fatima, do I remember you saying on a previous thread that you're from Spain or Italy or somewhere similar?
yes, Juliefrazz. I am from spain.
Well mainly from spain. My family is quite mixed: half spanish-french-moroccan,
Yes, that is a good point Kryten. So i can amuse you all with my adventures of looking for a husband...........
.....sorry, only joking.
Trust is extremely important, but I don't see how that is linked to the division of roles within the household.
I would argue that it is Hubby who has put himself into a vunerable position in our household. He works hard and brings home the money. He trusts me not to spend it all in all this free time I now have as a 'housewife'.
He also trusts that I won't find someone else now that I have time to go off socialising.
He trusts that I will do the things around the house that I have said that I will do, as he doesn't have the time to check up on me.
Where do I need to trust him? I know he is working as the money keeps on going into the account. I know that he doesn't have time to have an affair, and I don't depend on him to do anything else to help keep us going.
I feel less vunerable now than I did when I was working. I am no longer bullied by ex-colleagues who thought I would put up with it because I had nowhere else to go. I no longer have to damage my health to do enough in my job to keep my boss off my back. I was close to a breakdown when I worked. Now (at least today) I feel much calmer, healthier and happier.
and with todays modern technologies of hoovers and washing machines............being a housewife is not a fulltime job...................with a few children then depending on the children yet it can be and more.............
if you were stating that if you had children you would feel it was your natural role to stay home and nuture them then I could understand......................but just be stating when I get married I expect to be a fulltime housewife then it seems a bit too much like a footballers wife job.............