compassion.................Yorkshireman. A contradiction in terms I married into a family of Yorkshires...I'm surprised I haven't topped myself yet...but there's always the rest of the week...
my top tip for knowing when a guy is committed to you is ... tell him on the phone that you need to go out shopping for lingerie and would he give up match of the day to brave the busy christmas shops with you ....if he does .... you will know he is committed !
Not sure about all this cellphone malarkey - how did people tell in the days before cellphones?
Personal view is that you can tell by a hundred different things: phone calls every day, wanting to be with you as much as poss, sacrificing previous "me time" to be with you, if you can talk about the future and he don't look shifty, etc etc.
And prob v important - what is his relationship with your nippers (if you have nippers, which I think you do) - if there is any indication AT ALL that he is after you only, and not "The whole package" then i would think very carefuly before proceeding.....
But good luck AL, you sound like a nice lass and you deserve happiness.
The same place I buy my lingerie at 10.30 on a saturday night.
Although TBH I'm pretty sure the man of my dreams would have no complaints if I turned up on a date with no lingerie and a bumper pack of drain rods....................
wasnt going to give advice, was just going to say how nice it was to see lista again, but then I read the whole thread(and bits made me chuckle, so ta)
AL
this guy isnt committed in the sense that i think you and I might mean
if you just want fun, fine, see him on your terms, but if you want somehting more he isn not the one
Ah, have just read back to ms N's comments and also that he finds kids "a bit scary". I concur with general tenor of remarks above.
Real commitment is that he wants all of you including what comes with you. You need to think of the relationship your nippers will have with him and ask if he is mature enough or committed enough to handle it.
maybe I am being too simplistic but if I start worrying about this sort of stuff I am not enjoying the ralationship for what it is at that time and it isn't working and either needs fixing or ending - not going to spend along timeon if unless it is years old and I know there is some external shite going on
Blokes (and women) have certain character traits Coops. The same or similar types crop up regularly over the years in a person's lifetime. Seriously, they do. We can tell (some of us) where this chap is coming from just from the few things that AL is telling us. I know you may not believe me, but it's true.
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An interesting thread, AL. I hope you find the lid for your pot soon, so to speak. x
thanks Blondiee, and I like your suggestion about waiting til Wednesday to see if he mentions seeing me at the weekend!!
LoS, nice one!
But substitute lingerie for drain rods.
What Lawrence said.
Not sure about all this cellphone malarkey - how did people tell in the days before cellphones?
Personal view is that you can tell by a hundred different things: phone calls every day, wanting to be with you as much as poss, sacrificing previous "me time" to be with you, if you can talk about the future and he don't look shifty, etc etc.
And prob v important - what is his relationship with your nippers (if you have nippers, which I think you do) - if there is any indication AT ALL that he is after you only, and not "The whole package" then i would think very carefuly before proceeding.....
But good luck AL, you sound like a nice lass and you deserve happiness.
The same place I buy my lingerie at 10.30 on a saturday night.
Although TBH I'm pretty sure the man of my dreams would have no complaints if I turned up on a date with no lingerie and a bumper pack of drain rods....................
whilst its true I've spent many a happy hour with my drain rods, I still prefer a night of Lingerie
It might look better on me than you Blondiee
peeks in
wasnt going to give advice, was just going to say how nice it was to see lista again, but then I read the whole thread(and bits made me chuckle, so ta)
AL
this guy isnt committed in the sense that i think you and I might mean
if you just want fun, fine, see him on your terms, but if you want somehting more he isn not the one
he should be GAGGING to see you
Ok MM
Drain rods
but are you REALLY a cross dressing yarkshireman, not met one before?
(Waves to candy-hope you are ok, mate)
No I haven't got a rod big enough
Oh you are just encouraging me now...Stop it!
Ah, have just read back to ms N's comments and also that he finds kids "a bit scary". I concur with general tenor of remarks above.
Real commitment is that he wants all of you including what comes with you. You need to think of the relationship your nippers will have with him and ask if he is mature enough or committed enough to handle it.
Since when have half of the people on here been relationship experts?
AL, just do what you want.
No-one's pretending to be an expert. Well, I'm not, anyway.
But advice was sought and has been given.
Whether it is taken or not is purely optional.