Because I went for a repeat prescription of my contraceptive pill and remarked that I didn't know why I bother with it... He's a he and has known me for many years.
2. Rationalism - is it's all it's cracked up to be..
3. No strings sexual encounters - do they exist or is it just me who is getting nothing
1. Particle physics?! No fair - can't b*llsh*t that, you actually need to know stuff 2. I'm female; I'm entitled to discount all forms of rationalism when it suits me 3.
1. I know as much about this as Mike Frog does about Marxism... just joking Mike (We'll be setting about each other with our man-bags if we ever meet... the forum Crane Brothers)
2. Rationalism - good work Frodo but you don't get off that easy...
Hmm, I think the people that phone you are obviously nut-jobs. Or potentially they are not nutty, merely hard of hearing. Next time they think you're Dave, just pretend you are, then promise you'll get all the work done by the following day, hahaha
I have a few female friends who have dreadful relationships with their mothers and who feel their own mother always saw her as 'competition'.
Was just pondering whether that eventually internalised self-criticism influences how people then behave in relationships, i.e. never feeling quite good enough etc?
That sounds like the female equivalent of what I was trying to describe in men....
Do you think the stats work the other way around, i.e. dads to be more critical of sons? hmmm.... not sure...
I'm sure having one or more parents who are extremely critical of you will take their toll in adult life, but I thought the gender element was interesting.
I heard that news item mentioned this morning Nam and it set me to thinking. I have, at times, had a difficult relationship with my mother and get the feeling that I've always been a bit of a disappointment to her in some ways - especially in that I don't have a husband ... children ... grandchildren. However, there areas of my life about which she's been critical in the past. TBH it now just washes over me and I think she's mellowing anyway.
I'd always put it down to being an only child and having her getting frustrated that, having put all her eggs in the one basket, the basket didn't behave according to plan. I wonder if it would have been any different if I'd have been a boy.
I'd agree with that - even when I was trouble with a capital 'T' I could do no wrong in mum's eyes; nor could my brother. However, she gave my sisters a hell of a hard time when she was in the mood
Ah Tickled - a bit like me, except my dad's the critical one, although I feel that both parents are a bit indifferent to me. We're not close at all and I sometimes wonder what the point is of us all sitting in a room together and not really saying much of note to each other. Then I feel a bit guilty thinking that.
I'm an only child too.
Why can't you grow a beard Corinth? Too young .... or too patchy? (Not that I particularly like beards - sometimes they smell funny )
Interesting about the critical parents thing versus can’t do no wrong scenario. Although my dad was the stricter disciplinarian when I was young, my mother is definitely the more “disapproving” one of the two, largely because she doesn’t agree of my life choices. She left school early, married young, had me at 20, had a few jobs but never a career and then “gave herself up” (her words not mine) to care for various grandparents. I dragged myself through A-levels despite her ambitions for me not exceeding shop work and then being constantly criticised by her for not financially contributing to the household at age 16-17. The moment I had my A-levels I left home cos I was sick of the arguments. Then nothing but a string of disapproval for moving abroad, going to university instead of being there for when she gets old, not giving her grandchildren bla bla bla. Dad was strict and could scare the crap out of me with one single glance, but he was never "critical" of me as a person nor my choices and often says he’s proud of me cos he can barely write properly. As a consequence my relationship with my dad is a lot better than that with my mother who still thinks she’s Mother Theresa who gave birth to Cruella DeVille…
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God, I need a good seeing to.....
*sighs*
But the smell of anchovies isn't doing it....
Now Hai karate....
2. I'm female; I'm entitled to discount all forms of rationalism when it suits me
3.
It's all relative, Bear
Sorry.
Right
1. I know as much about this as Mike Frog does about Marxism... just joking Mike (We'll be setting about each other with our man-bags if we ever meet... the forum Crane Brothers)
2. Rationalism - good work Frodo but you don't get off that easy...
3. No comment
Now then LB you should have been around about 3/4 years ago - then teh smut was REAL smut
**sighs happily in nostalgic fog**
1. who cares
2 who cares
3 yes it does sometimes
1 I know nothing about particle physics or Girls Aloud
2 Yes
3 No strings? Obviously not at TOTM ...
just browsing the news on my lunch break and thought this was interesting...
mothers more critical of daughters than sons
I have a few female friends who have dreadful relationships with their mothers and who feel their own mother always saw her as 'competition'.
Was just pondering whether that eventually internalised self-criticism influences how people then behave in relationships, i.e. never feeling quite good enough etc?
If we ever meet, we can probably sell tickets!
(I'm thinking something very like "History Today") (history today)
Do you think the stats work the other way around, i.e. dads to be more critical of sons? hmmm.... not sure...
I'm sure having one or more parents who are extremely critical of you will take their toll in adult life, but I thought the gender element was interesting.
I heard that news item mentioned this morning Nam and it set me to thinking. I have, at times, had a difficult relationship with my mother and get the feeling that I've always been a bit of a disappointment to her in some ways - especially in that I don't have a husband ... children ... grandchildren. However, there areas of my life about which she's been critical in the past. TBH it now just washes over me and I think she's mellowing anyway.
I'd always put it down to being an only child and having her getting frustrated that, having put all her eggs in the one basket, the basket didn't behave according to plan. I wonder if it would have been any different if I'd have been a boy.
Ah Tickled - a bit like me, except my dad's the critical one, although I feel that both parents are a bit indifferent to me. We're not close at all and I sometimes wonder what the point is of us all sitting in a room together and not really saying much of note to each other. Then I feel a bit guilty thinking that.
I'm an only child too.
Why can't you grow a beard Corinth? Too young .... or too patchy? (Not that I particularly like beards - sometimes they smell funny )
Nope - I can do a goatee just, but I look like Richard Branson without the money... it won't grow at the sides