If you were dead/undead, do you think anybody but other dead people would want you? I know that seems harsh, but our identity affects everything we do. If you had an identity of I am strong confident Jedi warrior, for example, how do you think you would interact with the world and how do you think they would react with you?
Easy for me to say Will, Im not in the middle of it But i havent forgotten how it was You will know that you have to get through each day at a time What im worried about with you is that you are in limbo, which means you cant grieve, or heal
I think the rest of the world would be locking WW away in the nuthouse in that instance Sam
Will, I'm not really angry, I just don't take excessive s*** from people. Well I do, but only in the cause of banter etc - not about important things. That's the real distinction I learned.
Will I thonk you should continue to be your lovely self But for gods sake make her tell you what she wants If it s NOT you, then she probably doesnt deserve you (sorry, but i HATE to see people messed about like this, its playing power games)
I suggest you continue being the guy that would currently attract your wife.
As I said earlier, you can't make anyone do anything be it love you or tell you how they are feeling.
The following might help: People do things for a positive reason. This may not be your positive reason or the way you would phrase this particular positive reason but it is their positive reason and that is why they are doing it. Reason being can you think of anybody doing something for themselves because of a negative reason?
You will have to wait till your wife wants to tell you her positive reasons.
Will feel free to email me and I will support you to the best of my ability.
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From timid schoolboy to angry young man - but now I'm more relaxed about things (probably my age)
Does that mean you think you are dead/undead?
Interesting identity to have.
If you were dead/undead, do you think anybody but other dead people would want you?
I know that seems harsh, but our identity affects everything we do.
If you had an identity of I am strong confident Jedi warrior, for example, how do you think you would interact with the world and how do you think they would react with you?
But i havent forgotten how it was
You will know that you have to get through each day at a time
What im worried about with you is that you are in limbo, which means you cant grieve, or heal
Will, I'm not really angry, I just don't take excessive s*** from people. Well I do, but only in the cause of banter etc - not about important things. That's the real distinction I learned.
POOOOH:)
You startin psi, eh, eh?????
lol
But for gods sake make her tell you what she wants
If it s NOT you, then she probably doesnt deserve you
(sorry, but i HATE to see people messed about like this, its playing power games)
Ill shurrup now
If I was having a face to face conversation with you, I would ask something.
So I will give it a go here:
I know you don't know, but if you did, what mask would you wear?
Now to ask a stupid question, is that the mask you wear when you have any form of contact with the wife?
Including when you are leaving answerphone messages and sending texts?
I suggest you continue being the guy that would currently attract your wife.
As I said earlier, you can't make anyone do anything be it love you or tell you how they are feeling.
The following might help:
People do things for a positive reason. This may not be your positive reason or the way you would phrase this particular positive reason but it is their positive reason and that is why they are doing it.
Reason being can you think of anybody doing something for themselves because of a negative reason?
You will have to wait till your wife wants to tell you her positive reasons.
Will feel free to email me and I will support you to the best of my ability.